HNT - rope anyone?

I used to think I liked Chain, cold and hard. But then I found rope with DT and let me tell you I'm still drawn to chain but rope is my new love. Here is a shot from our last visit when I flew to New Jersey.





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Sir Sunday - Back to the west

Sir Sunday

Back to the West……..

Ranting, raving, and musing from “my soapbox in the corner of the internet”

As any of you have read the blog lately, you no doubt have noticed the countdown ticker in the top left. Yes, it is time for me to go and visit HBD again! We promise to take pictures and blog about our deviantly fun times.

So with the tickets bought and schedules arranged the discussion has moved to the actual trip. We are discussing our goals for the trip, our needs, and our desires, all to fit in our limited time together. HBD wants to claim her bragging rights again, and who am I to stop that, it is a great start to a visit. We have both expressed in very graphic terms described the more animal desires. Then there is the rope….. HBD is really in for it this time I am feeling a lot more comfortable in tying her up after recapping the first time in Denver and my looking around for more shibari knots to use with her. There are the Showers and snuggling But we have also discussed a few more vanilla pursuits, like an evening out, catching a movie, more mundane everyday life things.

These things are part of the reason I love HBD, we communicate and fit well together, her desires are met and she meets and exceeds my desires on a regular basis.
I am sure this trip will be nothing short of epic, and the stuff blog posts are made of.
Thanks for taking the time to read this and we will be reporting back around the end of October with our exploits.

I love you Babydoll and cannot wait until we are together again, Loving, Touching, Squeezing……each other….. (Sorry to any Journey fans out there).

~DT

Sir Sunday An analogy of the building blocks of relationships

Hello again, it is Sunday and time for me to step on my soapbox in this little corner of the internet. We apologize for the little interruption of our daily blog Service but HBD was a little “tied up”, who the hell am I kidding she was “a lot tied up”,

After an incredible first “get away” with HBD, I was reflecting on the dynamics of our relationship and the parts that make it work when all the conventional wisdom tells us it shouldn't. We have the very deep trust, (the most important ingredient, more on this later) then we have the friendship, our commitment, our partnership, our confidant roles and last but not least our similar “lifestyle” kinks.

So as I was reflecting on this sitting in a coffee shop I started thinking of relationships as a whole and started likening them to the espresso beverages that people order. Let's start with some drinks, (and if I don't name your favorite I'm sorry). There is the “straight” espresso, the “shot” as it were, then there is the Cappuccino, Latte, Mocha, Macchiato, Ristretto, Americano, and the Lungo. What do all these drinks have in common you ask? They are all a relationship built on a single block of espresso.

What does this have to do with real relationships? Well, the Espresso is the “trust” in a relationship if you start with good, fresh roasted and properly ground espresso beans, then tamp the grounds into the “portafilter” and then use the proper combination of time, temperature and extraction you will have a perfect building block for the rest of your beverage relationship. Does this mean any one of these drinks is better than another? No that is all personal preference, like is a “vanilla” couple better than a “Poly” relationship? Or a D/s or an M/s? again no. They are just different and based on personal preferences. Now back to this building block of trust, trust is the most important part of any relationship. Similar to if you remove the espresso form a Latte you just have steamed milk.

As I watched the customers come and go and order their drinks, I noticed an interesting trend, a handful of people ordered a “cappuccino” and then proceeded to complain to the barista, where is the vanilla syrup, where is the chocolate? This makes me laugh a little bit as people will order things with familiar names even thought it is not what they want, or even desire something else. Very much like people who don't trust their prospective partner to be honest enough with their wants and desires. I too have been guilty of this in the past, but now with HBD we have laid everything out in the open, all wants, desires, fears, and issues as they arise, there is a true trust here. I am hoping that all of my (small group) of readers will get to experience this at least once in their lives.

This trust made for an incredible trip, there was never an awkward moment, we were completely comfortable in all situations, even spending most of the trip naked and in each other's arms. We both slept deeper than we have since we were children safe in the care of our or parents. Yes, we had earth-moving love making and hot and sweaty sex and everything in between. There were a couple of moments where HBD drifted off to “subspace” a feat I had not expected to bring out in our first meeting let alone twice! Again this is possible due to trust. I am quite sure HBD will fill in the details in later posts as I have already gone beyond what a gentleman should tell.


Thank you Babydoll for loving me, trusting me, and the gift of your submission to me.

~DT

A Dom with OCD?

Sir Sunday 7-12-09

From the mind of Die_Tryin


Today I am starting with a question.
“Have you ever gotten fixated on a new idea or pastime that has consumed your thoughts to almost the point of not functioning?”

Well for me it is not too far of a trip, I have a mild form of OCD toward new experiences and “hobbies” couple that with a Virgo birth-sign...well now you know why I have “geek” tendencies.

So the OCD makes all new things a heavy focus and the Virgo in me makes me research it until I am a “book” master of the subject or task at hand. HBD mentioned in her blog post "Everyone should love a geek". I quote HBD "A Geek will study anything and everything from anatomy to physics, to the pure science of sex itself with an un-dying passion. " so that is part of what makes me a “Geek”.

So as you have been reading HBD and I are on a journey of mutual as well as self discovery, in our lives and our lifestyle. In these discoveries the latest one to surface is a mutual appreciation and interest, in rope play of all types, we are both novices, yet when I look at it my OCD kicks in and I am already trying to figure out Shibari a very advanced form of Japanese rope bondage, now that is just like me Run before I am even walking, so I have to remind myself to learn the basics before going to the advanced. Who knows Someday HBD will “Fly” by my rope work, but until then I have to remember to practice and take it slow, It is a good thing I have a great loving and trusting partner in my HBD.

~DT