Personal vows...

I know that in the typical D/s relationship a collaring ceremony is pretty standard practice. But there is nothing standard or normal about my Sir Die_Tryin and myself. We march to our own beat and we are completely in sync with one another.

Back in May DT asked me to be his one and the only sub, to allow him the honor of being my Dom. I gladly accepted as you can see below...

Die_Tryin (5/9/2009 11:52:53 PM): I have a question and I am laying it out on the line here
His_BabyDoll (5/9/2009 11:53:54 PM): ok, well you know I'll always be honest with you......and I will never intentionally or knowingly hurt you. You mean to much to me.
Die_Tryin (5/9/2009 11:54:23 PM): thank you...I'm not even sure if this is the right way to phrase this,,,,,
Die_Tryin (5/9/2009 11:54:53 PM): well HBD will you be my 1st, and only Sub, if I promise to keep you well and treat you in the manner customary of the dom/sub relationship as we grow and learn together
His_BabyDoll (5/9/2009 11:55:23 PM): you're welcome
Die_Tryin (5/9/2009 11:56:23 PM): heart in my throat
His_BabyDoll (5/9/2009 11:56:29 PM): Wow, you nailed it....give me a second, so I can get my thoughts from my head to my fingers without sounding like a silly school girl.
His_BabyDoll (5/9/2009 11:57:04 PM): ok, the short answer and then I'll put my thoughts together......short answer......yes
Die_Tryin (5/9/2009 11:57:26 PM): Whew....heart returning to normal
Die_Tryin (5/9/2009 11:57:47 PM): you have made me very happy
His_BabyDoll (5/10/2009 12:04:23 AM): ok, my brain and my fingers still aren't really on the same page, but I'm gonna try to put my thoughts out there
Die_Tryin (5/10/2009 12:04:28 AM): Ok...
His_BabyDoll (5/10/2009 12:06:31 AM): wow, ok.....me being a sub is not something I tell people. I can only think of 3 .....1 didn't understand it and was scared by it, the other was all for it but the reality was that he wanted a punching bag....no he never touched me I stopped it before it got there......and 3 is you.
Die_Tryin (5/10/2009 12:06:30 AM): Just remember, I will always love you
His_BabyDoll (5/10/2009 12:07:15 AM): trying to get my heart to slow down...lol
Die_Tryin (5/10/2009 12:08:20 AM): well #2 was an idiot that is not what it is about if I am reading correctly it is about trust, control and the ability to give up control
His_BabyDoll (5/10/2009 12:08:37 AM): I love you!! can't even begin to tell you how much. That love and the trust I have for you are the reason I showed you that side of me. And you were accepted that in me.
Die_Tryin (5/10/2009 12:08:39 AM): and have love on a deeper level
His_BabyDoll (5/10/2009 12:09:11 AM): you've read it right.
Die_Tryin (5/10/2009 12:09:38 AM): well HBD I must have always thought about this kind of love but never knew what it was...
Die_Tryin (5/10/2009 12:09:56 AM): and you were here waiting for me all along
Die_Tryin (5/10/2009 12:10:15 AM): brb,,,
His_BabyDoll (5/10/2009 12:11:03 AM): most people don't realize it until a trigger comes along.
Die_Tryin (5/10/2009 12:12:27 AM): well I know that My love for you won't diminish... but I don't want to make you "complicated situation" change as well
Die_Tryin (5/10/2009 12:13:19 AM): Just so you know I have been working myself up to ask you that question for about 3 days now
His_BabyDoll (5/10/2009 12:13:46 AM): I have to tell you that for all the knowledge I've put together on this, and on me and I wants needs desires that I've never been in a D/s relationship, and so we will really have a lot of learning to do together.
His_BabyDoll (5/10/2009 12:14:27 AM): I'm glad you asked!! Thank you, you have made my night.....week....month....year....well I think you get the picture.
Die_Tryin (5/10/2009 12:14:43 AM): thank you as well, baby




We had decided that we would have a dedication/vows ceremony on June 22nd, because of the summer solstice. But as that date came closer and our vows were written I convinced him to wait until the New Moon July 22nd, my birthday, when we would be together in Denver. Face to face our vows would mean so much more to us. So, it was decided. Below you'll see the vows we shared, first my vows to DT.....


DT, when you asked me to be your submissive, I was swept up in the moment. I had no idea then that we would come to be the partners we are now. You've given me this ring as a symbol of your commitment to care for and protect me, to cherish me and have my well being at heart. In such a short time this thing between us has grown to be so much more for both of us.

I proudly accept and wear this ring the one we have designed together, declaring that I am His - Yours. In wearing this ring I will commit to you, completely. My heart, body, and soul. I surrender myself to you as your one and only submissive but not just that, as so much more. I come to you with my heart in my hand offering you my love and partnership

Together we are friends, lovers, confidants, partners, Dom & sub, and one day when the time is right - husband and wife. I love you DT, completely and will spend the rest of life honoring your love for me, in all that I do. Thank you, for loving me.




and now his vows to me...

HBD, while I loved you for a long time before I realized it, we both have come
To realize that we were meant to be. I humbly asked you to be my "one and only sub",
And when you accepted I was ecstatic.

HBD, I promise to take care of you, Body, Mind and Soul, to be your Partner as well as
your Dom. My love for you growing daily will shelter you from the slings and arrows of the world.

We have transcended the original bond and my vow is still as strong as ever, but now there is even more.
We are partners, friends, lovers, confidants, and Dom/sub. All of these are complicated apart but together they make us whole.

I give you this ring as a symbol of my eternal love for you and as a reminder of my vigilance and dedication to you, and when the fates deem us worthy, my promise to make you my wife.


After we both spoke our vows we did a mini candle lighting ceremony, two lights merged into one. With a candle that would come back home with me so that every time I light it, I am reminded of these vows. Did I mention that this is the one and only time that I have taken my ring off? I took it off just long enough for the ceremony to work its magic, and for this amazing man to put it back on my finger, his hands my hands, together. The moment is one I will never forget.

A year from now, on that same date, we intend to make this official, so everyone send us your thoughts and prayers that we can both extract ourselves completely from our current situations by then.

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