Struggling to Satisfy our Needs with Kids in the House

The hardest part about being in a BDSM relationship to me is how to satisfy your needs when you live with kids.  We have two teenagers living at home, there is a small bathroom between our room and the oldest.  I know she can hear into our room based on conversations about mundane things she's heard from our room.  Things like my cell phone ringing, or action scenes in movies we watch after going to bed.  Or the night that DT reached over and poked my nipple, and I farted.  Yup, childish laughter for 10 minutes, tears rolling down my face laughter.  She heard it! So, what do you do?  How do you do it?

Let's start by saying, I'm loud in bed. It's taken me years to perfect the art of quiet sex, and there are still times that I slip. Going and staying at hotels isn't an option, sending the children off to grandma's not going to happen. So, we are back to trying to figure out how to make this work for us without scarring our children. I'm all ears, if you have any tips and advice please let me know.

The good news is that we are getting ready to go out of town this coming weekend, which means a night in a hotel without the children.  While I'll still have to keep the volume at a respectable level, I'm definitely hoping for a little crop or flogger action.  Fingers crossed, DT is on the same page. Because clamps and clothespins can only go so far.